Love and Marriage

February 17, 2018

Acts 15:5-6… But some believers who belonged to the party of the Pharisees rose up and said, “It is necessary to circumcise them and to order them to keep the law of Moses.”  The apostles and elders were gathered together to consider this matter.

            At the very beginning, the church did not agree on all points.  It is disconcerting for me to note that it is still that way. Some churches, in an effort to define love according to cultural input, have determined that love between women and men of the same sex is no different than love between a man and a woman. They have even gone so far as to say that the obvious sex of a child is not necessarily the sex of that child. The child has to choose what sex it wants to be before we can know. Sometimes, an operation is required to help the child be the sex it has chosen. I am on thin ice here, culturally; but, I am on solid ground Biblically. If you are reading this and you find that you disagree with me, I encourage you to figure out why you disagree and be persuaded in your heart that you agree with your feelings. At the time of Acts 15, certain believers felt that Gentiles should be circumcised before they could be God’s children. Other believers did not believe it. As it turns out, circumcision is not necessary for salvation. So there was a right answer to the question, even though certain people felt strongly about it being the wrong answer. We face the same dilemma regarding sexual orientation. There are strong feelings on both sides of the debate.

            One thought just came to me… Healthy, same sex, relationships are suspect and probably aren’t pursued sometimes because of the stigma and the potential for problems. In the Old Testament, the relationship between David and Jonathon was a strong bond of friendship and meaningful to both. It was not sexual by any indication. God gave love between a man and a woman as a basis for marriage. He gave love between men and between women as a basis for friendship. Jesus introduced friendship as a viable relationship to his disciples.  My thought is that there are boundaries and limitations on friends and on married couples. Love tells us not to cross those boundaries.